What you need to know about your child’s Facebook account
In the ever-growing world of social media sites, Facebook is king. It went from an exclusive network that opened at about a dozen college in the early part of the decade to the sixth-most trafficked site in the world. It has more than 350 million active users, which means that if Facebook were a country, it would be the world’s fourth-largest.
Chances are, your child is on it. Maybe you are, too. (So are we.)
They can seem confusing, but the changes actually reflect a desire to clean up some of the hodge-podge privacy tweaks that Facebook has made over the past few years. You now have the same ?? choices when deciding who can see information about you: share it with everyone on the Internet, Facebook friends and networks, friends of friends, only friends or a customized group. The last is a particularly useful option
1. Visible information. Part of Facebook’s draw is convenience: When you log in, you immediately get a “news feed” showing all your friend’s recent activities. Pictures from their family vacation, changes in relationship status (they went from being “in a relationship” to “it’s complicated” — uh oh!), and their new favorite band, all in tiny nuggets of information on your home page.
You can keep your information from being shown in other people’s news feeds by adjusting your privacy settings. But in December, the default setting for who can view your information became “Everyone.” That includes everyone on Facebook and, depending on your other settings, anyone who searches for you in search engines like Google.
HOW TO FIX IT: You now have to manually select who can see your profile updates and activities. Go under Settings, then click Privacy.
2. Tagging. One of the longest-standing complaints about the tagging feature is that the person who originally uploaded the photos has the power to tag anyone they want. If your child is tagged, he or she can “untag” themselves, but that feature only works until the person who owns the photos decides to “retag” them. This means
HOW TO FIX IT: Go to Settings, then Privacy, then Profile, the “Photos of Me.” You can make all photos and videos in which your child is tagged visible to certain groups — friends, friends of friends, only you, etc. But remember — the default is now everyone, so make sure you do this manually. (Teaching moment alert! This fixes the tag, but does not delete the photo; only the person who uploaded it can do that. This is a good opportunity to explain to your child that while he may have thought the picture of him DOING X was funny, a potential college or job employer down the road might not.)
3. Search engine visibility
We live in the world of Google, which is getting better and better at compiling all the tiny bits of information that exist about each of us online.
FIX IT: Settings, Privacy, Search. Here you can adjust how your child’s name shows up in searches on both Facebook itself and in search engines.
A few final thoughts: Visibility isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Companies and job seekers spend thousands of dollars to get themselves on the first page of search engine results.
While the desire to shelter your child from the unknown and potentially dangerous areas of the internet is certainly a good one, remember that i. Think of the saying, “Teach a man to fish and he eats for a lifetime.” Think of this as the opposite of that: You can shield your child from the Internet, but with the future clearly online, it’s better to teach them how to be safe there.