1. Become captain of the cheering squad
Your BFF just got another promotion? Be the first to toast her success! Her kid just won the science fair and the spelling bee? Call her up and beg her to brag. True pals aren’t “joy stompers” (a term coined by my good buddy Annie). They’re the ones who clap the loudest. So grab your pom-poms, girls, and be that friend.
2. Share your secrets
We all have favorite anti-wrinkle creams, maternity jeans or “I-nursed-three-babies” push-up bras. This month, host a “Share Your Secrets” cocktail party where guests bring three helpful “secrets” to share with the group. Sharing your secrets shows some serious love. For added fun, have guests donate a small secret weapon from their arsenal to be raffled off at the end of the party.
3. Hook a mother up
I recently observed a frazzled mom battling to get her newborn into a front carrier while balancing shopping bags, a slick pacifier and a latte. When I asked if she’d like a hand, you’d have thought I just gave her a new car. Don’t be afraid to help a sister-mom out, even if you’ve never met.
4. Use your e-mail for good
Another of my recent discoveries are the FREE and fiercely fun e-cards available at Hallmark.com. My family’s favorite cards are from the Hoops and YoYo collection. They’re a surefire way to add spontaneous shine to a friend’s spirit.
5. Show ’em you love ’em
Last year I hosted a grown-up Valentine’s Day tea party for some of the mom pals. Over a few kid-free hours, we indulged in full-fat treats, fancy cups and saucers and slow, uninterrupted conversation. It’s a simple and brilliant way to say “thanks sister!” to your most treasured friends.