What do you hope your girls think about you?
“First and foremost, I want them to consider me as a huge ally. That doesn’t mean they have to tell me everything, not at all. I want to be their crutch and shelter and rock and safety whenever they want. I want us to be a source of happiness in each other’s lives, whether it’s cuddling on the couch and watching Netflix or whether it’s traveling together or enjoying good food together or going for runs together or whatever.”
Your biggest parenting reality check
“That’s a tough question. You think as a parent that it ends at some point, getting them to college. But it really doesn’t. For me the balance is between letting my daughters be their own people versus constantly trying to mold them into what I want them to be. For strong parents, for us to give them the latitude to make their own mistakes and discover themselves is always a tussle for us.”
People assume all women are made to be moms, but she says it took her time to find her joy. She had her girls late, particularly by Indian standards, but says she wouldn’t change that. “I really had the time to find myself and gain my own confidence. I think those are very important underpinnings as a parent, but nothing quite braces you for the journey,” she says.