You’re a new parent. You want childcare that’s (a) nurturing, (b) stimulating and (c) doesn’t require taking out a second mortgage. Where, and when, to begin your search?
There are two basic approaches: in-home and out-of-home care. And there are lots of factors to consider.
In-home care
This is care provided in your home vs. someone else’s. The upsides? Individual attention, fewer germs from other kids and convenience.
The downsides? High hourly costs and paperwork. Plus, a sick sitter can leave you in the lurch and there’s less opportunity for your child to socialize.
If you want in-home care, you can look into referral agencies in advance, but you won’t be able to interview candidates until a month or two before returning to work. Nannies and babysitters available for interviews generally want to start immediately.
Here are your in-home options:
Babysitter/nanny
What do you call someone who comes to your home and cares for your child while you’re at work? You have two choices: babysitter or nanny. What’s the difference? Semantics, mainly. Pick your favorite; either term is accurate.
Pros: Your child receives one-on-one care, and you don’t even have to get him dressed before scrambling out the door in the morning.
Cons: Around Chicago, you’ll pay $8 to $15 an hour for an experienced daytime babysitter. And managing the legally required paperwork and taxes can feel like you’re running a small business.
Full-time cost: This can run $1,440 to $2,700 monthly, including paid vacation and potentially a health insurance subsidy and placement fee.
Share care
Know a nearby family with compatible childcare needs? Share a sitter by bringing the children together and rotating houses every other week.
Pros: You split the cost, and the kids enjoy built-in socialization in a comfy, familiar environment. To really save, coordinate a three-way share care arrangement.
Cons: If the other family’s needs ever change, you’re forced to find another family pronto or cover the sitter costs yourself.
Full-time cost: Expect to pay about $720 to $1,350 a month, including paid vacation and potentially a health insurance subsidy and placement fee.
Relative care
Relatives are the most popular childcare providers in the United States.
Pros: Free, loving, dependable help is like winning the childcare lottery. Don’t ask why you were the chosen one; just accept the prize and be grateful.
Cons: If you’re not thrilled with your mother-in-law’s approach to naptimes or your aunt’s love affair with daytime TV, you’re in a tough spot. Discuss your parenting philosophy in advance and keep up an honest, open dialogue.
Cost: Relatives typically don’t charge, but you could offer payment.
Live-in nanny/au pair
Yes, we’re talking about someone living in your house, willing to help with diaper changes and laundry at a moment’s notice. Very nice, especially if both parents work long hours with unpredictable schedules and you have space at home for another person.
Pros: By offering room and board, you may save on salary. Live-in nannies generally pitch in on serious housework as well, and international au pairs can introduce another culture and language.
Cons: You sacrifice privacy for convenience. Be thorough in interviews and communicating expectations. While weekly hours are agreed to in advance, a 19-year-old visiting the United States for a year may be more excited about seeing the sights than pitching in as much as you hoped at home.
Cost: Expect to offer room, board, a negotiable monthly stipend, paid vacation and possibly a health insurance subsidy and placement fee.
Daycare options
There’s a reason daycare is so popular: It starts with a dollar sign and ends with a number that’s a lot smaller than what babysitters cost. Plus, your child gets to learn about sharing even before siblings hit the scene.
The downsides? Schlepping your child out the door is required, and we all know what that entails. Then there’s the sick factor. And daycare hours are limited, which can be tricky on those evenings when your boss needs you to stay late. In fact, some centers charge by the minute if kids aren’t picked up by closing time. And if your daycare provider’s staff is always leaving, you should too. Consistent adult relationships give babies confidence to explore the world.
Unlike hiring a babysitter, which you do at the last minute, if you want a daycare center, call now. Popular daycare providers often have waiting lists months long. Even if you’re unsure, it doesn’t hurt to save a spot in advance.
There are three options: daycare centers, daycare homes and on-site, employer-supported daycare.
Daycare center
These designated kid-care spaces are in church basements, stand-alone facilities and everything in between. Some have 20 children; some have 200.
Look for one that’s licensed and accredited. Caregivers should be trained in early childhood education and staff turnover should be low. There should be at least one adult for every four kids.
Try to find an environment that feels safe, bright, stimulating and comfortable. Talk to all the caregivers and make sure you have a personality match.
Pros: Daycare centers tend to be more affordable and less likely to leave you stranded than a babysitter, and socialization is built in.
Cons: You typically get what you pay for in the world of daycare; unlicensed providers have lower rates but generally don’t offer the same quality of care or safety.
Full-time cost: Around Chicago, the average monthly cost for infants in daycare centers is $820.
Home daycare
Someone sets aside a portion of her home—often a lower level or playroom space—for daytime babysitting. There are lots of options here, from a stay-at-home mom watching two or three extra kids to a family who’s running a long-term childcare business out of the basement and backyard.
Pros: Home-based care tends to be less expensive and have fewer children, more flexible drop-off and pick-up times and a homier atmosphere.
Cons: Some home-based caregivers don’t have the same training as those in centers.
Full-time cost: Around Chicago, the average monthly cost for infants in home-based daycare is $565, according to Child Care Aware.
On-site daycare
If your employer offers on-site daycare, visit the facility and make the call.
Pros: This can be a great arrangement, allowing you to spend more time with your child during your commute and lunch break.
Cons: Waiting lists tend to be long, and when your child is suffering severe bouts of separation anxiety, morning drop-off can be a stressful way to start your workday.
Cost: Facilities and costs vary; talk to your employer for specifics.
Book explores childcare options
The Working Gal’s Guide to Babyville, by Paige Hobey, Chicago writer and mother of two, offers new moms strategies for making the most of maternity leave, weighing your work options, negotiating a family-friendly position, finding great childcare and more.
Plus, contributing pediatrician Dr. Allison Nied offers easy-to-execute advice for nurturing a super sleeper, enthusiastic eater and all-around contented child.
Paige Hobey is a writer and mother of two living in Chicago.
This is an updated version of a story that orginally ran in Chicago Parent.
