Why do you think mothers judge other
I think mothers judge each other to help justify the ways in
which they are mothering. There isn't a how-to parenting book. I
constantly walk around wondering if I am feeding them the best
foods, washing their clothes in the least toxic detergent, keeping
to a nap schedule, and the list goes on and on. After having my
third child, I surrendered to my situation and had no choice but to
become more confident in "my" chosen mothering skills and not worry
about what others are thinking.
Have you been criticized by other moms or found yourself
We had major sleep issues with our first child and I was
exhausted and venting to a friend. Instead of just listening, she
instead told me I may not be cut out for motherhood and should
maybe go back to work. Not what a tired and frustrated mom needed.
Five years later that comment still stings.
How do you try to stop the competition among
It is a real time-waster, to be honest. Becoming a mom has been
one of the most challenging things I've ever done and I have found
it important to surround myself with other similar-minded moms who
support one another. What we need to tell each other more is that
we are doing a great job.