1. What do you carry in your
a. The iPhone.
b. A plain, old cellphone.
c. A Blackberry.
2. Your tween begged you for something special for
her 11th birthday. You:
a. Scored front row tickets to One Direction.
b. Hosted a mini-spa afternoon for her and her three
c. Sprung for a party at Chuck E. Cheese.
3. Your seventh-grader has a bunch of buddies over
and they break a lamp in your family room playing football.
a. Shrug it off and suggest they play Wii instead.
b. Promptly send them outside for the rest of the day.
c. Vow to only have one friend in your home at a time from now
4. It's a day off from school.
a. Stay home from work and help your kids build the
biggest fort on the block.
b. Make popcorn and order a kid-friendly movie.
c. Have them clean their rooms before you let them outside.
5. How would you describe your everyday
b. I manage to tuck my shirt into my pants!
c. I live in sweats-nothing wrong with that!
6. When was the last time another mom asked you
a. In the last week.
b. In the last month.
c. Um, I'm the one who's always asking for advice.
Give yourself one point for each "a" answer,
two points for each "b" answer, and three points for
each "c" answer. If your score is between 6 and 8,
you're the coolest mom on the block. Score between 9 and 13, and
you're about average "cool." If your score is between
14 and 18, you may be so uncool you're actually cool.
When I was a teenager, my mom was the "cool" mom. She was
at least a decade younger than my friends' mothers, wore T-shirts
and jeans like we did and made my friends laugh. Her youth and
energy were mortifying to me at the time (she even had a baby when
I was 15!), but now that I'm a middle-aged mother, I wonder if I
will ever be considered cool-by my kids or by anyone
What about you? Are you a cool mom or decidedly uncool?
And what the heck is a cool mom anyway?
"A cool mom is one who enjoys everything-like someone who
likes sports and who plays with their kids," says Cole,
Riley, 9, defines a cool mom as "obviously someone who
loves you, for one thing. She lets you do things you want, but she
always wants what's best for you."
"Cool moms are funny and nice to everyone, including their
kids," says Aubrey, 11. "They're fun to be around."
Of course, no mom is fun to be around all the time. We all
have days where we yell at our kids, forget the permission slip or
count the minutes until bedtime. So maybe cool is a state of
"I guess a `good' cool mom (in my opinion) is one that
stays current but realizes that she's not 20 years old anymore,"
says mom of two Lisa Berch Bakewell of Joliet. "A cool mom knows
about technology and uses it, but doesn't abuse it. A cool mom
dresses in an up-to-date fashion, but doesn't try to dress like a
20-something. A cool mom knows how and, maybe more importantly,
WHEN to interact with their kids' friends and when to be
`invisible.' A cool mom is one that, basically, knows the
difference between being a `cool mom' and trying to be too cool. A
cool mom still embarrasses their kids, but less
The truth is, the older your kids are, the less likely you
are to be considered cool-at least to them.
But what about your peers? It's not only your children
(and their friends) who may have an opinion about whether we're
cool. What about the fellow moms we encounter every day?
"When I was growing up, the `cool moms' were the ones who
had fewer rules for their kids," says Eileen Dwyer Breeze, mom of
three kids, 7, 3, and 2, who lives in Downers Grove.
Today Breeze has a new definition of what it means to be a
cool mom. "I think a `cool mom' can, in fact, maintain high
standards and firm boundaries."
When it comes to relating to other moms, being a cool mom
means "commiserating about the things that stress us out, worry us,
and make us happy-without complaining or gloating," she says. "I
also think it means putting yourself together well."
The bottom line is that in the long run, confidence in
your role as a parent is way more important than whether you're
"I don't know if I'm a `cool' mom or not," admits
Bakewell. "I guess that depends on your definition."
Maybe it's time to stop worrying about whether we're cool,
and just focus on being loving, consistent parents-and enjoying our
children. That's what they're likely to think is cool-if we can get
them to admit it, anyway.
Kelly James-Enger's 7-year-old son, Ryan, says, "a cool
mom doesn't yell, she plays with her kids and has fun with them."
By that standard, she's two-thirds of the way cool.
Kelly James-Enger’s 7-year-old son, Ryan, says, “a cool mom doesn’t yell, she plays with her kids and has fun with them.” By that standard, she’s two-thirds of the way cool.
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