When Jill Bettenhausen first learned she had breast cancer, soon
after her annual mammogram in early 2010, her son Gunnar was 7 and
her daughter Sophia was 4.
"My initial reaction was paralyzing fear of dying too young and
leaving my children without a mother," says Bettenhausen, of Tinley
Park, who was 45 at the time.
Her children reacted in entirely opposite fashions, as siblings
often do. Her son couldn't hide his fear of the future. Her
daughter couldn't resist pointing out pink ribbons during family
In the spring of that year, Bettenhausen had a double
mastectomy. But, due to the surgery, she avoided radiation and
chemotherapy. While recovering from surgery, including additional
surgeries for chest reconstruction, her mother-in-law stepped up
for the children.
"I still saw the children, but she met all their needs,"
explains Bettenhausen, who missed only one of her son's baseball
games through the entire ordeal.
During her healing process, as doctors educated her and she
learned more about the disease, her initial reaction to the
diagnosis started to change.
"I realized I could fight this and win," she says.
After this relatively common realization for many survivors,
"life went on," Bettenhausen says. She couldn't pick up her
daughter or drive the kids to their school or activities, but she
could ride along.
Her support team routinely came to the rescue, including her
husband who would pour milk, water and other drinks into smaller
containers so she could lift them. Family and friends took turns
delivering home-cooked meals for weeks.
"That was a huge help to us," she says. "All in all, we did
great as a family."
They also learned valuable lessons.
"I've learned to listen to my body, to not worry about keeping a
spotless house, and to do something fun with the kids instead,"
Bettenhausen says. "I've also learned that I want to help other
women affected by this disease, and to teach awareness and push
early detection. Early detection saved my life and I'm so
Today, Bettenhausen is cancer free, yet she's still getting used
to her "new normal," a common transition for survivors. Her chest
still feels uncomfortable, and she must take Tamoxifen for at least
two more years.
Over the past three years, her children, now 10 and 7, have
learned about giving back, specifically by raising money for breast
"And for a cure," adds Bettenhausen, whose mother also is a
breast cancer survivor.
Both kids will make posters for their mom and her "Pink
Warriors" team at the upcoming Avon Walk for Breast Cancer in
"They realize I'm here today, but that I won't always be here,
so we always share countless hugs and 'I love you's' every day,"