In her debut novel, "The Sunshine When She's Gone", Thea Goodman
didn't have to look far for inspiration. While the events in the
novel are fictional, the book explores the life transition of going
from being a married couple to having children. "It's something
that me, my friends and many of my peers were all going
Goodman will hold a book launch March 6 at Women &
Children First, 5233 N. Clark St., Chicago.
Mom of the Month: Thea Goodman, Author of "The Sunshine When
You write with passion about sleep deprivation.
How bad did it get for you?
Pretty bad. (She laughs.) I think it's hard for
everyone. ... This was what parenthood entails, we didn't
expect anything different. We were resigned to being a little
fuzzy. I do think it's really challenging. Even just daily quarrels
that you might have with your spouse really do come from sleep
deprivation. I notice when we both had a good night's sleep how
different things seem in the morning.
How do you describe your parenting
My husband is a political scientist. He basically looks at
data and makes analysis from data. He always tries to remind me
that as long as we don't traumatize them, the chances of them being
happy are quite high. So we try not to create any pain in their
lives. I'm very smothering, very super-loving. I'm kind of a softy.
But we also have rules and firm boundaries about bedtime, screen
time, the rules of the house. As long as they stick within those
rules, we'll be very friendly.
Your worst parenting moment?
Last winter, coming in from sledding and my son had been
really very trying. We walked into the house and my daughter did
something or asked for something and I snapped at her in a very
mean way. ... It was one of those moments when I completely
unleashed my wrath at her and she hadn't really done anything
One thing you'd change about your
I would love it if we could tuck three or four more hours
into the day. Usually by the time the children are in bed, we don't
have very much time left before we have to go to sleep. I would
love to have more energy from 7:30-10:30 p.m. to write or have a
conversation with my husband or finish an entire movie.
What do you like best about raising kids in
There's so many things to do with children in Chicago. ...
Culturally there are so many riches that are available to children
here. I think it's really unique for a major city.
Tamara is the editor of Chicago Parent and mom of three.
See more of Tamara's stories here.
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