I have the most amazing husband on the planet and
every woman deserves a man like him. I know, you may be thinking,
"yay, good for you." Don't be a hater. There's more to the
I don't always feel this way. I have been known to throw
myself the occasional pity party, whining and complaining about
this same man. Or at least about the overinflated ideas I hold him
My idea: He's been working a
lot of hours. I've barely seen him in days. All the house and
family obligations are on me. I'm feeling tired and lonely. The
doorbell rings, he has sent me a bouquet of flowers and a box of
His idea: He brings me a case of energy drinks
left by one of his customers.
My idea: He whisks me away
to some rooftop decorated with a thousand white, twinkling lights.
Gently walking me over to an exquisitely set table complete with
white linens and champagne, he pulls my chair out and gestures for
me to sit. Taking the sterling silver lid off of its sterling
silver tray, he reveals a stunning diamond necklace.
His idea: "Burgers on the
While my ideas may be romantic as heck and would score him
a lot of points (hint hint), meeting him halfway makes for a more
peaceful, loving marriage. My expectations need to take a backseat
so I can see what is really in the road right in front of
On a daily basis, he shows up and participates in our
lives. After working a 15-hour day, he walks in the door smiling,
happy to be home and happy to see us. Day after day he gets up for
his job, not his dream career, and shows up ready and on
I can count on him to be there for me and the children.
When he is busy at work, he always makes time to talk to us on the
phone if we need something. More often than not, he tells me he
loves me and gives me a kiss and a hug. He tells me I'm beautiful
and an awesome wife and mother. He sends me text messages with
smiley faces that blow kisses. He's not afraid to be himself and he
makes us all laugh.
So I may not get the "stuff" that commercials, magazines
and romance novels would have me believe I "need" to have a happy
marriage, but in the real world, he is an awesome dad, a man of his
word, a great friend and my funny little Valentine.
Cheryl Burns is a mom living in North Riverside.
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