Five fun apps to improve your sex life

Need some inspiration between the sheets? We've chosen five apps to help you and your spouse reignite the spark.

- By Kristy MacKaben

Kristy MacKaben is a freelance writer living in Lake Zurich with her husband and two kids.

 
 

There was a time we would kiss at every red light. I don't just mean a peck. I mean full makeout sessions until the stoplight turned green. I remember thinking: "Will we always be like this?"

A decade and two kids later, the answer is, of course, "No." My husband and I love and appreciate each other, and we still have a spark, but we don't always put our love life first.

Who knew technology could help?

While mobile devices are often blamed for tearing couples and families apart, technology isn't all bad.

If used appropriately, technology can help couples reconnect, says Amy Stewart, a Streeterville-based psychotherapist who specializes in sex therapy. "Once you have kids, it's hard. It gets boring. It gets routine. You need to spark things up," says Stewart. "Technology can help."

Texting or emailing sexy messages throughout the day, video chatting while away from each other or connecting via mobile applications can help couples bond, says Stewart.

Unlike my husband, I'm not a big app person. I usually get all huffy when I see him fiddling with his phone. But we put a few apps to the test. From surreptitiously leaving love messages on sticky notes throughout the house to communicating through a game about sexual intimacy, these apps can definitely do some good.

 
 

Kahnoodle

Free for iPhone, iPad, iPod touch (and soon Android)
Developer: Kahnoodle

Kahnoodle can be an eye opener. I was a bit surprised by my husband's love rankings-especially which particular "love need" he ranked as number one. By understanding the ranking of love needs (quality time, thoughtful acts, spontaneity, verbal praise, sexual intimacy, affectionate touch and gifts), couples can work harder to make each other feel loved and appreciated. The app then encourages users to give "Kudos" to their partners for meeting those love needs. Kahnoodle also provides a mode to share lists, plan date nights and send private messages or pictures.

 
 

TheIceBreak

Free for iPhone, iPad or iPod touch (and soon Android)
Developer: TheIceBreak

TheIceBreak is designed to keep couples better connected through fun questions and activities. Think there's nothing left to learn about your main squeeze? You might be pleasantly surprised. Ever wonder how your partner would describe your "smell" or the exact moment he/she knew you were "the One"? TheIceBreak asks poignant, yet amusing questions.

 
 

Romeo To Go

Free for iPhone, iPad, iPod touch or Android
Developer: Angelsong Creations

A sticky note in the refrigerator: "Great dinner tonight! A sticky note on the bathroom mirror: "Your smile makes me smile." A sticky note inside a book: "Thank you for being you." My husband really got into this app and took the advice from Romeo To Go to show affection unexpectedly and often.

 
 

Kindu

$1.99 for iPhone, iPad, iPod touch or Android
Developer: Franklin Innovations

Now here's a fun app. Wink. Wink. Just skimming the more than 600 questions on Kindu will get you in the mood. The app even comes with a disclaimer from the developer: "This app is not for the faint of heart. There are some ideas you should not try in a million years, but we wanted to include the whole spectrum of sexual behavior." Though a number of questions are a bit over-the-top for the average married couple, there's nothing wrong with expanding your imagination, says Stewart. Kindu provides examples of turn-ons, fantasy role play and sexy activities. Using passcodes, each person privately answers "Yes," "No" or "Maybe" to each scenario, and then Kindu later reveals only the scenarios where both people matched. If some answers don't match, no one knows.

 
 

Love Map

$1.99 for iPhone or iPad
Developer: The Gottman Institute

Want to know what your partner really thinks? Start by asking a handful of the questions provided on this app. From the serious "What makes your partner feel most competent?" to the kinky "What turns your partner on sexually?," the Love Maps app encourages couples to quiz each other.

 
 
 







 
 
 
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