Need some inspiration between the sheets? We've chosen five apps
to help you and your spouse reignite the spark.
- By Kristy MacKaben
Kristy MacKaben is a freelance writer living in Lake
Zurich with her husband and two kids.
There was a time we would kiss at every red light.
I don't just mean a peck. I mean full makeout sessions until the
stoplight turned green. I remember thinking: "Will we always be
A decade and two kids later, the answer is, of course,
"No." My husband and I love and appreciate each other, and we still
have a spark, but we don't always put our love life
Who knew technology could help?
While mobile devices are often blamed for tearing couples
and families apart, technology isn't all bad.
If used appropriately, technology can help couples
reconnect, says Amy Stewart, a Streeterville-based psychotherapist
who specializes in sex therapy. "Once you have kids, it's hard. It
gets boring. It gets routine. You need to spark things up," says
Stewart. "Technology can help."
Texting or emailing sexy messages throughout the day,
video chatting while away from each other or connecting via mobile
applications can help couples bond, says Stewart.
Unlike my husband, I'm not a big app person. I usually get
all huffy when I see him fiddling with his phone. But we put a few
apps to the test. From surreptitiously leaving love messages on
sticky notes throughout the house to communicating through a game
about sexual intimacy, these apps can definitely do some
Free for iPhone, iPad, iPod touch (and soon Android)
Kahnoodle can be an eye opener. I was a bit surprised by
my husband's love rankings-especially which particular "love need"
he ranked as number one. By understanding the ranking of love needs
(quality time, thoughtful acts, spontaneity, verbal praise, sexual
intimacy, affectionate touch and gifts), couples can work harder to
make each other feel loved and appreciated. The app then encourages
users to give "Kudos" to their partners for meeting those love
needs. Kahnoodle also provides a mode to share lists, plan date
nights and send private messages or pictures.
Free for iPhone, iPad or iPod touch (and soon Android)
TheIceBreak is designed to keep couples better connected
through fun questions and activities. Think there's nothing left to
learn about your main squeeze? You might be pleasantly surprised.
Ever wonder how your partner would describe your "smell" or the
exact moment he/she knew you were "the One"? TheIceBreak asks
poignant, yet amusing questions.
Free for iPhone, iPad, iPod touch or Android
Developer: Angelsong Creations
A sticky note in the refrigerator: "Great dinner tonight!
A sticky note on the bathroom mirror: "Your smile makes me smile."
A sticky note inside a book: "Thank you for being you." My husband
really got into this app and took the advice from Romeo To Go to
show affection unexpectedly and often.
$1.99 for iPhone, iPad, iPod touch or Android
Developer: Franklin Innovations
Now here's a fun app. Wink. Wink. Just skimming the more
than 600 questions on Kindu will get you in the mood. The app even
comes with a disclaimer from the developer: "This app is not for
the faint of heart. There are some ideas you should not try in a
million years, but we wanted to include the whole spectrum of
sexual behavior." Though a number of questions are a bit
over-the-top for the average married couple, there's nothing wrong
with expanding your imagination, says Stewart. Kindu provides
examples of turn-ons, fantasy role play and sexy activities. Using
passcodes, each person privately answers "Yes," "No" or "Maybe" to
each scenario, and then Kindu later reveals only the scenarios
where both people matched. If some answers don't match, no one
$1.99 for iPhone or iPad
Developer: The Gottman Institute
Want to know what your partner really thinks? Start by
asking a handful of the questions provided on this app. From the
serious "What makes your partner feel most competent?" to the kinky
"What turns your partner on sexually?," the Love Maps app
encourages couples to quiz each other.