If you've been together for years, you may just take the state of your sex life for granted. Maybe it's time you probed a little deeper, pardon the pun.
"Start by having an open conversation with your partner. Talk about what turns you on. Share your secret fantasies with each other. Discuss the things you've always been curious about trying," says Steph Auteri, co-author of The Good in Bed Guide to 52 Weeks of Amazing Sex (Good in Bed Guides, 2010). "Use this conversation as a jumping-off point for a new, sexy to-do list of things you'd both like to try."