Six tips to help parents improve their love lives


According to a recent survey, 75 percent of married women say a good sex life is "important or very important" to them. Good to know. So why aren't we having more of it?

An informal poll of my fellow mom friends revealed that most are like me-struggling to carve out time to "get busy" with our husbands. And even if we manage to find the time, it's not that easy to get in the mood.

"After a long day of running around, taking care of the kids, and finally getting them into bed, the last thing I want to do is have to think about my husband's needs, too," admits one of my girlfriends, who insists on remaining anonymous. "Now that we have two kids, we have sex maybe once a month."

She shrugs.

"But it's not high on my priority list right now."

My friend should rethink those priorities, says Debra Herbenick, Ph.D., a research scientist at Indiana University.

"Sex is important as it helps people feel connected," says Herbenick, author of Sex Made Easy: Your Awkward Questions Answered-For Better, Smarter, Amazing Sex (Running Press, 2012). "It's a way to have fun with your partner, to see a side of them that no one else gets to see."

If you're not happy with the quantity or quality-or both-of your sex life, don't despair. Even the busiest parent can take steps to improve their love life, which will improve their relationship as well. It's win/win.


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