She was smiling in the family photo enclosed with her Christmas
card. But it was the one simple sentence my friend wrote in her
annual newsletter that caught my attention. After listing the
activities and accomplishments of her children and husband, she
modestly wrote that she'd been busy working at a new job and
keeping the family on track and organized with all their
Oh, how I could relate!
Like any mother, my day is consumed with so many work and home
responsibilities that it's next to impossible to cram it all into a
mere 24 hours. The Rolling Stones were dead wrong-time is not on my
side. And I'm guessing it's no friend to any mother, whether she's
paid for her work or not.
My friends, who are all equally busy but seem to lead more
exciting lives over on their side of the suburban pasture, always
inquire as to what's new with me - the standard polite conversation
opener. After some thought, my answer always is a lame "nothing,"
followed by the usual feelings of inadequacy and an ever-so-slight
stab of regret for a life lived so not on the edge.
It truly amazes me that even though I feel absolutely Herculean
at the end of each week, it's because I merely survived it. I work,
take care of a home and family (including occasionally feeding
them), and get the kids safely to and from all of their activities
on time with all their necessary accoutrements (I'm so grateful my
kids have grown out of the end-of-game snack tradition. Keeping
track of our turn on the snack schedules alone required an MBA in
strategy and planning-too much for this 40-something brain to
remember on its own without a little electronic help.).
That basically sums up my entire life from sun up to pillow
touch-down each day! Pretty pathetic, huh?
When asked this ubiquitous question of "What's new?" I do,
however, take great comfort in the fact that I don't have news of
any illness, death or imprisonment in my circle of friends and
family to report. I'll take minutiae and monotony over malady and
maelstrom any day.
I've heard that true happiness is knowing your life's purpose
and living it. (OK, full disclosure, I think I may have heard it on
Oprah, but it sounds good, doesn't it?) I still haven't figured out
my purpose other than laundress, carpooler-in-chief, and dust bunny
eradicator, but I am pretty happy and content and have many, many
blessings for which I truly am thankful.
So why should I care that I don't always have a thrilling answer
to the perpetual "What's new" question? All I ask for is just a
shred of something new. How about "I narrowed down my paint choices
for the living room to 12" or "I finally discovered a cleanser that
gets the nasty ring out of the toilet bowl"? Boring, boring,
I know I sound ungrateful and you're probably thinking I should
take up salsa dancing or bungee jumping - anything to stop the
I really don't mean to complain. So the next time a friend asks
me the inevitable conversation-opener, I'll revel in the fact that
absolutely nothing is new. Which really is code for "My family is
healthy and happy, we have a nice roof over our heads and food on
the table (when I get around to actually cooking)."
I suppose, when I look at it that way, "nothing" doesn't seem so
bad after all.
Nadine Novotny Cound lives in Wheaton with husband Tom, daughter Hailley and son Liam who are all healthy, happy, extremely busy and sometimes well fed.
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