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Staff Sgt. Brian Duffy: Missing the first baby

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By Liz DeCarlo
Monday, January 25, 2010
 
 

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duffy1Brian Duffy was in training when his wife Marianna called to tell him she was pregnant. "He was in training almost my whole pregnancy, so I was by myself," Marianna says. Brian, who knew he would be deployed to Afghanistan almost as soon as he returned to Illinois, wanted so much to see his son when he was born that they asked the doctor to induce labor a week early. Brian had only two weeks with his son after his birth in November, and then another two weeks in December, before he deployed to Afghanistan this January.

After the baby was born, Marianna's mother came from Brazil to help. "It was hard, because it was my first baby, and I wanted my husband with me. And my mother doesn't drive here or speak English, so I was going by myself to doctor's appointments and Brian was so sad," Marianna says.

Marianna and the baby will move to Brazil to live with her parents while Brian is deployed. Because Marianna speaks only limited English, the baby will learn Portuguese and Brian is worried that he won't be able to communicate with his son when he returns. For Christmas, Marianna bought Brian books on learning Portuguese that he took with him to Afghanistan.

While Marianna supports her husband, she admits it's challenging to understand why he had to go. "I grew up in a country where we don't have war, so I don't understand why and I don't have the same feelings as Brian," she says. "I am proud, but I just want him back safe."

This article appeared in the 2010 February edition of Chicago Parent.

Liz DeCarlo is the senior editor at Chicago Parent.

See more of Liz's stories here.

Contact Liz at ldecarlo@chicagoparent.com

 
 
 
FF/PM

By T.DODERO on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

THANK YOU FOR SERVING OUR GREAT COUNTRY... BE SAFE HURRY BACK ..GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.

Thank you

By Stephanie Lim on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Brian, Manny and I am praying for your safe return. Thank you for serving out country and making such a huge sacrifice. God Bless you.

LT WDFD

By Manny Lim on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Duffy, I know you'll come back safe. I and the family send our love and prayers for you, Marianna and the baby. Thank you and all who serve for all you do for our country. We wish it didn't have to be this way but I'm sure you'll be back with your family and us soon.

FF/PM

By Scott Schraft on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Duffy, I look forward to the safe return of you as well as Marianna and the baby..........!!!!!!!

Stay Safe

By FF/PM Dave Miller on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Brian and Family, I wish you all well and may god and peace be with you!

Congrats

By Vito on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Brian and Marianna, congrats and the baby. Stay safe buddy we'll see you when you get back. I can't wait to hear you speak Portugese.

Dear friends,

By Soraya Seixas on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Duffy family is very close to my heart, and my prayers goes to them! Brian, stay safe and strong! Love you Marianna and baby Brian!!!

Family Friends

By John&Vickie O'Connell on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

We are very proud and concerned. We are looking forward to your very safe return.Congradulations Marianna and Brian Looking Forward to our first meeting with B.A.D.Heads down and nose in the book.Muy Amo John&Vickie

Winona Prays for you

By Denise on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Your sister Alanna keeps us updated on your journey and the joy of your new little family. Please know you are in our prayers. Find a way to use technology to keep in touch. If you can get some computer time check out SKYPE. I have been able to talk to a friend stationed in Afghanistan quite easily. Again our prayers are with you. President Obama said you will all be home by August. Let this be so!!!!!!!

Thank You

By Wendy on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

I want to say this story really touched my heart my husband and I have an 11 month old son and he is also away. He was sent to Afganistan when our son turned 6 months old. Good luck, stay safe and you and your family are also in my prayers.

Prayers for your young family

By Cheryl on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Brian with the love and support of your family and Marianna's that little guy will know his daddy and how proud we all are of the resposibilities you are undertaking. Keeping you all in my prayers and hoping for safe return. Glad your sister will keep me informed too. God be with you all.

My nephew Brian

By Colette Stoll on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

God bless you, stay safe. You and Marianna and little Brian are in my prayers. Looking forward to welcoming you home soon.

Love and Prayers

By Kelly Hansen on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Brian, you and your beautiful family will be in my thoughts and prayers over the next year. We all eagerly await your safe return. Much love to you and yours!

My cousin Brian

By David Stoll on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Brian, thank you for your patriotism and willingness to serve. Stay safe and be assured that we will do any & everything here that you or your family needs us to do until you arrive back home. You are in my thoughts and prayers everyday.

God Bless

By Cara Boswell on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

God Bless you and keep you and your family safe. You are a brave and honorable man, and no doubt an exeptional father. You and your beautiful family will be in our thoughts and prayers. Thank you for all that you doing.

Keep'n You in Our Prayers

By LTC John F. Duffy (Ret) USA on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Brain, thank-you for your patriotism, willingness to serve and maintaining the Duffy legacy. I certainly understand how hard it is to be away from your young family and friends. Stay safe as we will keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers until you return. Hooah!

religion teacher

By MHP on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

We pray each day for peace and for all those serving AND for their families. Your photo and this story remind us to continue.

stay safe

By judy winkler on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Brian, we are praying for your safety and your new family. Marianna is so sweet just like your beautiful son. we love you.

Family

By Kristen Smiley Fournier on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

It is hard for me to know such a young family has to be split up by war. Brian and his family are very dear to me. I hope and pray for his safe return to his beautiful family.

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By Alanna on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

We're so proud of you, Brian, and your unit! Keeping you and Marianna and Brian in our thoughts and prayers every day.

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