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Brian Duffy was in training when his
wife Marianna called to tell him she was pregnant. "He was in
training almost my whole pregnancy, so I was by myself," Marianna
says. Brian, who knew he would be deployed to Afghanistan almost as
soon as he returned to Illinois, wanted so much to see his son when
he was born that they asked the doctor to induce labor a week
early. Brian had only two weeks with his son after his birth in
November, and then another two weeks in December, before he
deployed to Afghanistan this January.
After the baby was born, Marianna's mother came from Brazil to
help. "It was hard, because it was my first baby, and I wanted my
husband with me. And my mother doesn't drive here or speak English,
so I was going by myself to doctor's appointments and Brian was so
sad," Marianna says.
Marianna and the baby will move to Brazil to live with her
parents while Brian is deployed. Because Marianna speaks only
limited English, the baby will learn Portuguese and Brian is
worried that he won't be able to communicate with his son when he
returns. For Christmas, Marianna bought Brian books on learning
Portuguese that he took with him to Afghanistan.
While Marianna supports her husband, she admits it's challenging
to understand why he had to go. "I grew up in a country where we
don't have war, so I don't understand why and I don't have the same
feelings as Brian," she says. "I am proud, but I just want him back
Liz DeCarlo is the former senior editor at Chicago Parent.
See more of Liz's stories here.
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