You're looking to bond with your second-born-or
third or fourth, for that matter-so what activity do you choose? If
you're like a lot of parents, you grab the remote and flip on the
television. No wonder first-borns get more education, more money
and score higher on IQ tests.
A recent study shows that first-born children get about
3,000 more hours of quality time with their parents between the age
of 4 and 13 than the next sibling gets when they pass through the
same age range. And that number gets more dismal with each
"On any given day, it's going to feel like you're spending
more time with younger kids and that's true," says Joe Price, the
Brigham Young University economics professor who conducted the
study. "But what you want to ask is: Am I spending as much quality
time with my second-born 6-year-old as I did with my first-born
when he was 6 years old? That's where the difference
First-born children get more time with parents reading
together, talking, playing and helping with homework, while second
and thirds get more TV time. But it's easy to counteract this,
Price says. "Watching TV with kids is the most common parent-child
activity other than eating. If even some of this time can be
diverted into reading and talking together, it will
Liz DeCarlo is the senior editor at Chicago Parent.
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