1 I don't have time for myself
It's important to create time for yourself. Ask for help and accept help when it is offered. It's in the best interest of the baby to make yourself a priority-if you can do a few things a day for yourself, life will feel less chaotic and you will have more patience as a mother. Remember, your baby senses your energy, so if you are feeling chaotic and overwhelmed, your baby feels it, too.
2 I'm having an identity crisis
Becoming a mom is such a huge change, especially if you move from working full-time to staying home. After having a baby, you experience growing pains-your time no longer is your own, you are a novice at this new job of mothering, and every aspect of your life has been altered. Just knowing that it's normal to feel overwhelmed and unsure of yourself can be soothing.
Moms feel guilty when they struggle with the change-they feel they aren't maternal or that they are doing something wrong-but mothering takes adjustment, practice, and patience. The more you accept this, the easier it will be.
Cathy Cassani Adams, author of The Self-Aware Parent and host of Zen Parenting Radio