Just as selecting a name and decorating a nursery are part of
the natural process when you're expecting a baby, having a baby
shower is a staple in most first-time pregnancies.
Although most men feel out of place at a luncheon wrapped in
pink or blue tulle, many fathers like Paul Rizzutto of Hoffman
Estates admit they wouldn't mind a day of their own to celebrate
their impending arrival. By tailoring a day or a baby shower around
a soon-to-be-dad you'll make sure he knows just how special he
Here's how to start:
"The most important thing is maintaining a masculine flair,"
says Rizzutto, a father who has both attended and planned a
father's shower. This is crucial to planning a dad shower. Most men
are not interested in finger sandwiches and frilly cake, so
consider a barbecue buffet or variety of pizzas as the main course.
Themes such as 'Bill's last baby-free bash' or 'Rob's pre-baby
barbecue' pique everyone's curiosity and set the tone for a
lighthearted, fun event.
"I suggest talking to your partner's brother, best friend or a
close relative to help plan the event," offers Patti Puma, a mom
who helped throw her husband a father's shower. If you're planning
a surprise, remember you will need help keeping dad in the dark and
getting him to the party on time. "Someone to handle sending out
invitations and fielding questions will be beneficial to making
this a stress-free day for everyone," Puma says.
If you're going for a sports theme, consider using baseballs or
footballs as invitations. Using spray mount, you can affix the
printed invitations to the item as a fun, masculine and memorable
invitation. Instead of almonds wrapped in lace, Traci Devlin opted
for commemorative baseball hats touting her brother's favorite
team. "We stuffed them with popcorn and peanuts for a great
take-home gift." Tying a note that has the date of the party, the
baby's due date and a simple thanks can also double as a thank-you
Another innovative twist is planning a father's shower for a
repeat father-to-be. After spiraling through the whirlwind of
preparing for a first child, expecting a second child can be more
comfortable and methodical. When he was preparing to be a
second-time dad, Rich O'Dean didn't expect his family and friends
to plan a day dedicated to him becoming a father. "I'll never
forget the thoughtful sentiment and surprise of walking into that
room," he says. A father's shower that celebrates a second or third
child takes some of the pressure off family members and friends who
are wondering what gift to give the new baby or parents.
If the dad is a sports fanatic, team apparel, logo merchandise
and pint-sized athletic gear are fun gifts. Most professional and
semi-professional teams offer infant- and toddler-sized items that
are often available online for easy shopping. A handyman will get a
kick out of receiving a tiny tool belt and work boots. Whether the
dad is a golfer, pilot or Daytona enthusiast, apparel, merchandise
or even a certificate for tickets to an event also make terrific
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