More Letters for February

 
 

Dear Editor of Chicago Parent: My name is Dr. Fick and I am a clinical child psychologist, and a director of an outpatient counseling agency for children. I was very saddened to see that you made the decision to cut the Piepers' Smart Love column from Chicago Parent. Smart Love offers parents a very loving, effective approach to parenting that takes into consideration how a child's mind develops, and an accurate understanding of child development. I have been using Smart Love in my practice since 1999 when the book came out, and it has drastically changed the lives of the families with whom I work. Many parents have shared how it has helped them cultivate a more loving, fun family life, as well as raise children who have true self-regulation and genuine self-esteem. There are so many parenting approaches out there that are harmful to children, despite parents best intentions. The Piepers are parents and scholars who truly understand what children need to flourish. I see that the new column you chose talks about practical parenting. Smart Love is very practical, yet it is based on the latest scientific research. While it is helpful to hear a parent's advice on how to parent, it is important to include parents who are experts in the field of child development and parenting, such as the Piepers. It is my professional opinion that the Chicago Parent has suffered a huge loss by cutting this column. I order this for my waiting room because of the column, and am disappointed that the families can no longer benefit from the Piepers wisdom. I urge you to consider to reinstate this column. Thank you for your consideration. Dr. Carla Fick Director, Pediatric Psychology Associates, Oak Brook

Please save the Smart Love column -it is great information, and a great resource-we have adopted many principles and feel like it has benefited our family-also great to know what issues other families face. Please keep this column if for no other reason than the children it may benefit! Susan Jacobs

Dear Ms. Tamara L. O'Shaughnessy, What a loss it would be to eliminate the Smart Love Column from Chicago Parent Magazine! As a preschool educator and a parent for over 20 years, the Piepers' column is an invaluable resource in guiding parents and educators in understanding the development of children in order to parent and educate with vision. With the myriad of experts suggesting parenting advice, it is important to provide parents with a knowledgeable, compassionate way to help parents enjoy the parenting experience. I often recommend your magazine to parents due to this particular column. Parents are relieved to know that while raising their children they can always maintain a warm and loving relationship with their children whatever their concern may be. What sound and stable advice!

I ask you to seriously reconsider the decision to remove the Smart Love column. Parents, children and educators deserve solid information that promotes healthy relationships. Kelly A. Perez

Dear Mrs. Tamara L. O'Shaughnessy: I urge you to continue the Piepers' Smart Love column in the Chicago Parent. The column has been an informed and inspiring monthly support for parents all over Chicagoland since 1999. The Chicago Parent as a venue for the Smart Love column has provided us with not only educated and knowledgeable information, but also a parent to parent voice that resonates with our everyday interactions with our children. This candid and optimistic view of child-rearing has enriched our ability to parent effectively and has stimulated the best in us as parents. It would be a disservice to cancel a column that offers such a wealth of support and guidance. This is a venue that cannot be replaced. With so much conflicting parenting advice out today, the Piepers' advice is authentic, informed and uniquely helpful.

We urge you to continue their column without delay so as to not miss another month of their wisdom. Flora L. Swearingen, LCSW

Dear Ms. O'Shaughnessy, I am writing to express my dismay and disappointment that you would discontinue the Smart Love column in Chicago Parent.

It is the very first thing I look for in the magazine. What could your reason for this possibly be? I hope it's not that you don't understand your readers.

What a terrible shame. Elena Crossman Oak Park

I am a regular reader of Chicago Parent, and am extremely disappointed to find out that you're planning to cancel the Smart Love column! I think it's the best feature of the magazine, and is always the first thing I look for when I pick it up. Please reconsider keeping it! Kristen Halverson Oak Park

Dear Tamara: It has been rumored for some time that you would be eliminating the column by the Piepers. This is a terrible loss to the community as the Piepers offer humane, sensible advice to parents. I am always impressed by the thoughtful consideration they give to the problems presented to them and to how helpful they are to parents who are trying to understand and help their children. They are always positive and constructive in their responses and clearly offer solid advice to parents that cannot be found any where else. It would be a terrible mistake to stop publishing this column and to deny parents such a helpful resource. Please say it ain't so, Tamara!!! Mark Steinberg

Dear Mrs. Tamara L. O'Shaughnessy: I urge you to continue the Piepers' Smart Love column in the Chicago Parent. This information is crucial for all parents and children, I can not imagine why something so significant could be left out of your esteemed magazine. We are all either searching or should be for the wisdom this column and this approach to parenting delivers. Please consider this letter as my request that you reconsider on sharing with all of us parents such a wonderful gift as Smart Love. In Spirit and Light, Tom Mathews

Dear Mrs. Tamara L. O'Shaughnessy: I really enjoy the Smart Love column and find it useful.

I urge you to continue the Piepers' Smart Love column in the Chicago Parent. The column has been an informed and inspiring monthly support for parents all over Chicagoland since 1999. The Chicago Parent as a venue for the Smart Love column has provided us with not only educated and knowledgeable information, but also a parent to parent voice that resonates with our everyday interactions with our children. This candid and optimistic view of child-rearing has enriched our ability to parent effectively and has stimulated the best in us as parents. It would be a disservice to cancel a column that offers such a wealth of support and guidance. This is a venue that cannot be replaced. With so much conflicting parenting advice out today, the Piepers' advice is authentic, informed and uniquely helpful.

We urge you to continue their column without delay so as to not miss another month of their wisdom. Jaclyn Dugger

It is with sadness that I hear you are canceling the Smart Love question and answer section of your monthly magazine. I am very familiar with the Piepers and their teaching and find their insight invaluable to healthy parenting today. Their answers are always quick and to the point and offer wonderful thoughts on discipline and emotional issues for parents and caregivers everywhere. I feel your magazine offers healthy advice overall and Smart Love advice can only supplement the teaching of new ways of parenting that are both healthy and challenging and will eventually result in happy, healthy adults. The Piepers have consistently shown their in-depth understanding of the true developmental process of all children which cannot be replaced by any other column.

Please consider reinstating this column. Maureen Spielman River Forest

Dear Ms. O'Shaughnessy, I just learned that Chicago Parent has decided to drop the Smart Love column. If this is true, I am writing to implore you to reconsider this decision. As a parent of a 3 year old, I have been picking up the paper consistently for some time. As soon as the paper is in hand, I turn first to the Smart Love column to see the questions posed by parents and the incredibly thoughtful, respectful, and child-centered responses of the Piepers.

Additionally, in my role as an educator of future clinicians in psychology, I have frequently directed students to the column as a wonderful source on sound parenting advice and a model for communicating with parents in a respectful and non-blaming manner. Indeed, as a practicing clinical psychologist, I personally have found the Piepers' column powerfully instructive in demonstrating how to think about what children communicate with their behavior and how to talk with parents about making changes that preserve the pleasure in their mutual relationships.

I hope that you will reconsider the choice to eliminate the column and thereby prevent a terrible loss for your readers. Annemarie Slobig, Psy.D. Dean, Illinois School of Professional Psychology Program Chair, Clinical Psychology, Illinois School of Professional Psychology Argosy University Chicago

Dear Mrs. O'Shaughnessy, I urge Chicago Parent to continue the Piepers' Smart Love column. This column has been an inspiring monthly support for both parents and educators. For so many years both parents and educators have been aware of the wealth of this venue and it would be a disservice to Chicagoland to eliminate the column. Please do not interrupt the service that the Piepers' work offers your readers. Susan Ravine

Dear Tamara: I understand that Chicago Parent has opted to cancel the Smart Love column. Let me say that as a five-year reader of Chicago Parent, I have always looked forward to that column for thoughtful, nonjudgmental advice on parenting issues of importance.

I do hope that this decision will be reconsidered. Bernadette Pawlik

Dear Mrs. Tamara L. O'Shaughnessy: For the past several years, as a parent and professional child psychotherapist I have scooped up the Chicago Parent and immediately flipped to the Smart Love column, as have my co-workers. We've even placed in them in many hand of the parents we work with as well as friends who are new parents. The loss of this column for advice from another parent is like calling a friend when you should really be looking for child development information based on current research. Wow, what a stretch!! It's like saying "you can't get what you used to anymore." I can't say that I will pick up the Chicago Parent with must gusto until this column can be restored. What a unique and helpful offering that you exclusively had. Have you spoken with the Piepers? They are clearly very professional, brilliant experts and parents of many children. Please call them to get this column back into your publication. I can't wait to be able to glimpse the next new Chicago Parent and see what the Piepers have to say. Angela D. Hunsicker, LCSW Psychotherapist Pediatric Psychology Associates, Oakbook Program Manager Smart Love Parenting Center, Chicago

Jill Browning is more rude, than pragmatic. Her writing expresses an extremely narrow and opinionated view, which seems inappropriate for a magazine with a diverse readership. For instance, phrases such as "Uber-mom" and "school mayhem" make Mrs. Browning's personal opinions very clear.

Personal theories are, after all, the opposite of pragmatic and seem to have no place in her column. Additionally, her response to the reader requesting advice regarding sharing a babysitter, in essence, was just rude.

Babysitters are people with their own minds and to assume that a sitter is part of your "territory," or to share sitter information only when it is understood that you "maintain first dibs" is inappropriately possessive.

As an editor I am sure you stand behind your decision to hire Mrs. Browning. As a reader, I am extremely disappointed in this choice and it will negatively impact my desire to continue to read, and recommend, Chicago Parent. jbiancosmith@comcast.net

Dear Mrs. Tamara L. O'Shaughnessy: I urge you to continue the Piepers' Smart Love column in the Chicago Parent. The column has been an informed and inspiring monthly support for parents all over Chicagoland since 1999. The Chicago Parent as a venue for the Smart Love column has provided us with not only educated and knowledgeable information, but also a parent to parent voice that resonates with our everyday interactions with our children. This candid and optimistic view of child-rearing has enriched our ability to parent effectively and has stimulated the best in us as parents. It would be a disservice to cancel a column that offers such a wealth of support and guidance. This is a venue that cannot be replaced. With so much conflicting parenting advice out today, the Piepers' advice is authentic, informed and uniquely helpful.

We urge you to continue their column without delay so as to not miss another month of their wisdom. Meghan Flannery M.D.

 
 





 
 
 
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