Reader poll - November 2004
On the road to adoption
Friday, November 19, 2004
This month we celebrate National Adoption Month by sharing the advice of parents who tell us how they decided to adopt and what they learned on their journey.
The only snag we encountered while adopting our son was from my mother and her husband who told us they would not accept this child as their grandchild. We were hurt and shocked, but moved forward with our plans. I would advise any potential adoptive parent to be prepared for negative comments such as, “Why would you want to do that?” “You don’t know what you’re going to get,” or “Why would you take care of someone else’s child?” We can’t change how my parents feel and we don’t focus on that. We surround our son with the love and support of family and friends who adore him. Linda of Chicago, mom of Samuel, 22 months
As a gay couple, making the choice to adopt was easy. We only considered an open adoption since we wanted our children to have a connection to their biological families. There is no question who are Maya and Joshua’s Daddy and Papa, but they have the additional love from more people in their lives. What could be better than that? Ed and Dan of Chicago, dads of Maya, 18 months, and Joshua, 1 month As a parent you need to look into your child’s eyes and feel your child is the most beautiful one in the world. I’m happy to say we have two of the most beautiful children in the world. Mary of Woodridge, mom of Paul, 5, and Nora, 3
Several people told us about their personal hesitation to consider loving “someone else’s child.” But I already love “someone else’s child”—my husband (now a grown up). We readily acknowledge to our friends and family that our gene pool was insufficient to produce the amazing children we are blessed with today. Barb and Marty of Mount Prospect, parents of Lisa, 13, Lauren, 9, and Lindsey, 5.
Our daughter’s birth mother said she felt selfish for wanting to continue the life she and her two older children had without making a commitment to another child. We hope people realize how unselfish it was for her to give her baby a chance at a life she wasn’t ready to provide. Laura and Jerry of Alsip, parents of Allie, 2