People have asked me this question, some with a tinge of
anxiety, some with tears in their eyes.
They explain how much they appreciate their family, their
friends, their home and their work, but they still feel a sense of
longing; they feel there is something else.
Their choices thus far have been typical - school, job,
kids….the questions were laid out and the decisions were
clear. But now they are here and they feel unsettled, like
something is missing.
I have felt this feeling, too and I know it can be
uncomfortable. But I can tell you confidently that the
question is just a necessary step; an indicator that another part
of your life is just beginning.
We are not always fully conscious of what we really want. Many
of our life decisions are based on what society dictates or what is
expected by family or friends. But when the question,
what else arises, we are reminded to wake up and find our
This is when you decide what feels right to you. This is
when you really tap into what excites you or what experiences or
hobbies are calling to you.
The question may take you back as far as childhood, the time
when you knew for sure what you loved to do.
Did you draw? Did you write? Did you sing or dance? Did you
spend time in nature? Did you travel? Did you love
animals? Did you take pictures? Did you live to make people
laugh? These may be soul passions or dreams that are still
You may attempt to find a new career path through this process,
but you don't have to - this time you can just focus on enjoyment.
You don't have to explain yourself or compete with anyone, you can
just explore. You are now free to do the things you have
always wanted to do without the pressure to perform or be the
I know - life is already full of "things". So maybe it's
time to let go of some "things" that don't nurture or fulfill
you. Maybe its time to say no when someone asks you to do
something you don't want to do. Maybe its time to let go of
obligations that no longer serve you.
This can be difficult, but it's the only way to create space for
you. It's the only way to create space for what
What else is the best kind of wake-up call - it's a
realization that you are living part of your life, but not all of
it. It doesn't mean you are ungrateful, or that you don't
love your children, spouse, friends, or current job. It just
means there is a part of you that is still calling, a part that is
still waiting to be seen or heard.
So try not to be afraid of the question, just embrace it.
Think about it, feel it in your heart, talk about it and process it
Another part of you is ready to come alive. How great is
Cathy Adams is a certified parenting coach, yoga instructor and mother to three girls.
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