My 6-year-old daughter has a headache. She is moaning in
the back seat of the car; she sounds so uncomfortable.
I go through a list in my head….maybe she had too much sugar
today, maybe she needs some Tylenol, maybe she's getting
sick. Being aware that my first response is usually worry, I
decide to breathe through my concerns and simply say, what can
I do to help you?
She says nothing, she has her eyes closed. When we get
home she gets out of the car and lies down. She breathes
She says she thinks she needs food. She joins us at the
dinner table, takes a few bites, and then asks if she can be
excused to lie down again. She repeats this pattern….eat, lie
She asks for a foot rub with essential oils. I assume she
wants her favorite oil, but she decides to look through all of them
so she can decide. She is not finding what she needs.
She asks if we have one that smells like lemons.
I am surprised, she has never used lemon oil before (I mostly
use it for cleaning). I find it and she smells it - she
wrinkles her nose and says it's not right.
I mention that I have one called Citrus Fresh, a mixture of
lemon, orange and a few other oils. I have never used it so
it needs to be opened. She smells it and says, "this
I rub her feet and she continues to breathe and relax. She
gets up to put on her pajamas, and I decide to check my oil
reference book. I am unfamiliar with citrus fresh; what is it
I smile as I read - Citrus Fresh is a blend which may help
enhance the feeling of well being in children…..it opens the
lymphatic system and stimulates the immune system…it may be useful
for relaxing, calming, and balancing the system.
I tuck her in to bed and say, do you know you are my
teacher? Do you know you remind me how to take care of
myself? You remind me that we all have information; we just
need to be quiet and listen.
She says, "I know" and then falls asleep in a matter of
Cathy Adams is a certified parenting coach, yoga instructor and mother to three girls.
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