I love the word Namaste. Because I am a student and
teacher of yoga, and just because.
It can mean hello, goodbye, or it can be a form of
recognition. It's a beautiful word that can be translated
The spirit in me sees the spirit in you.
The love in me sees the love in you.
The divinity in me respects the divinity in you.
I see me, so I see you.
And for you Star Wars fans, The force in me feels the force
Translations vary, but the core meaning is powerful - the
love and respect I feel for ME allows me to fully love and respect
During yoga class last week I realized the deep connection
between Namaste and the practice of self care - we must take care
of ourselves to fully give of ourselves - to our children, to our
partner, to our work.
I know, this is not a new idea, you have heard it many times
before. But do you practice self care? Do you practice
Maybe you still think it's selfish to put yourself first (old
programming) or maybe you believe that you don't have time to make
yourself a priority.
But really, self care is the key to effective parenting -
take care of yourself, love yourself, and love your children
for who they are right now.
It's such a shift to look at self love as a parenting tool, but
it's the truth.
This self love allows you to see your children as individuals
with their own lives and their own needs. It helps you
understand what Kahlil Gibran
was talking about when he said:
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for
They come through you, but not from you.
And though they are with you yet they belong not to
Because you love yourself - your beauty, your quirkiness, your
light, your dark, and your gifts, you will see and accept these
things in your children. You will know that you are not in
charge of making them who they are - they already know who they
You just get to love and support them as they grow and
experience their life.
This is the same in partner relationships, in friendships, and
any other interpersonal interactions. What you have to offer
is what you carry inside, so it all begins with embracing the
beauty of you.
And Namaste is the perfect prayer, the perfect reminder to offer
yourself the gift of love and understanding.
And by loving and accepting all parts of yourself, you offer
everyone around you permission to do the same.
This is what it means to offer your heart.
And this is why we place our hands together at our heart when we
Cathy Adams is a certified parenting coach, yoga instructor and mother to three girls.
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