Next Tuesday, January 4th, my husband and I begin a
new journey together as co-hosts of Zen Parenting Radio on
Why do we call it Zen Parenting? "Zen" has many different
definitions and interpretations, but the one that really resonates
with us is enlightenment through self contemplation and
Take care of yourself, know yourself, realize you are wise and
have the capacity to do great things, and respect and appreciate
the people around you.
These are the roots of great parenting, and these are the roots
of a great life (
click here to read my article, Zen Parenting, from the
November 2010 issue of Chicago Parent....).
So while Todd and I live a very real life with typical ups and
downs, we also strive for self awareness, to parent our girls in a
loving, accepting, and conscious way.
But we approach life and parenting from different angles - I
tend to focus on the emotional and spiritual experiences - I have a
deep curiosity and appreciation for the grand design of the
Sometimes I am a little much for my practical husband. He
has a deep side, but his daily experience is a lot more logical -
he's a facts and bullet points kind of guy.
But neither of us is right or wrong, we are just
different. Together we work very hard to hear each other and
respect each other's world view.
Of course, this isn't always easy - sometimes I think Todd is
way too stuck in his head and he thinks I am stuck in outer space,
but that's what makes our lives interesting - we know we are here
to learn from each other.
And isn't that why we are all here? To teach and learn
from each other? To have and share experiences that guide us
to our true selves and a meaningful life? (if Todd was writing this
he would simply say that we are here to enjoy life and raise our
children to do the same….but that's just semantics - same idea,
different language…. )
That is why I am excited about this radio show - we get to share
parenting tools, personal growth ideas, and hopefully start a
conversation between couples….especially couples who view or say
things differently but ultimately have the same desires for their
We don't plan on telling you what to do and we don't claim to
have all the answers, but we will share what's worked (or hasn't
worked) and what we find helpful and interesting.
So join us live every Tuesday at 4:30 on Pagatim.fm or listen at your
convenience by going to the website - www.zenparentingradio.com
For updates you can "like" the
Zen Parenting Radio Facebook page or follow us on Twitter
@zenparenting. Comment or email to let us know what interests
you or topics you think are important.
The whole month of January we will discuss Selfish
Parenting…..I know, it sounds like a bad thing, but it can
actually be good.
It's not about disregarding others, it's about making yourself a
priority so you have more energy for others.
It's about letting go of some of the things that drive you crazy
so you can make room for the things you love.
It's about letting go of martyrdom and taking responsibility for
your life. If you feel full, you have more to offer your
partner and children. If you are feeling love for yourself
you will have more love to give.
Hey dads, this is not just for moms - you need to take care of
Sounds crazy, but being selfish can actually be a gift to your
entire family - join us next Tuesday at 4:30 pm. and we will
continue this conversation…
Cathy Adams is a certified parenting coach, yoga instructor and mother to three girls.
See more of Cathy's stories here.
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