I'm a huge movie fan, an entertainment trivia buff, and someone
who loves all things Hollywood, so the Academy Awards on Sunday
night was like my Super Bowl (or World Series, or whatever your
sport of choice). I'm not interested in the designer gowns or
which couples walk the red carpet. I am interested in
watching someone's life change in front of my eyes. In a
moment an actor goes from one of the many to an Academy Award
Winner. Opportunities change, choices grow, and a dream is
I am in awe of these moments because more often than not, these
actors have taken a risk to play the part that scored them their
Oscar nod. They moved out of their comfort zone or took a
role that nobody thought they could tackle. They listened to
their gut or took a leap of faith.
Year after year this has inspired me and served as a
reminder. For most of my adult life I have played it safe,
stayed within the norm, and looked to others for validation.
But in the last couple of years I have made a significant
shift. Instead of doing what is expected or assumed, I have
made choices outside of my comfort zone. Not just for the
sake of being different, but because it's what my heart and soul
really wanted to do and I finally took the time to listen.
Really listening inspired my decision to write, publish a book,
have more children, and become a yoga teacher. It also helped
me let go of things that didn't serve me, like unfulfilling work or
social obligations that I dreaded. Letting go created space
for what inspires me on a soul level.
This process of discovery has been the greatest and most
difficult work of my life. I have been tested by outside
opinion, finances, and finding the right work/life balance.
But I have been most challenged by my own insecurity and fear, that
part of myself that is uncomfortable with change.
I was reminded that this is the human condition when actress
Sandra Bullock was asked why she changed her direction, personally
and professionally, during a pre-Oscar interview. She
responded, "I became committed to being scared and being
These words resonate so deeply and explain exactly how I feel on
a day to day basis. Being scared often makes me question my
choices and my direction, but I also know that fear is often an
indicator that I am doing something worthwhile.
I know that part of my life work is to write and talk about this
type of awareness, and even more important, pass this message along
to my children. While I am not completely sure how to do this
effectively, I do know that listening to myself helps me listen to
Part of my job as parent is to provide structure and safety
while teaching my children to live within a society, but the other
part is to make sure I hear my children, respect their thoughts and
honor their strengths. To help them trust their inner voice
so they live a life that pleases them instead of trying to please
everybody else. I know that these concepts cannot be taught
with just words. I realize it is something that I need to
demonstrate, something that I need to live.
And as usual, the Academy Awards on Sunday night was one of my
favorite reminders of the tremendous possibilities in all of us,
and the life changing opportunities that lie ahead. The
actors and the movies really moved me this year, as did their
speeches on award night. I listened carefully as they had
their moment of a lifetime, and my 38-year-old self heard their
words with greater clarity.
I may never be an actor, but I know what they mean with they say
that all things are possible. I may never be famous but I
understand when they say that a great family and a team of friends
helped them get to where they are. I may never meet these
people that I have read about my whole life, but I know we are more
similar than we are different.
We all want to follow our dreams and live the best possible
life. We all want to experience love, discover our life's
work, and raise our children with a sense of self and respect for
community. We all want to shine. And if we can make the
choice to shine, even when outside opinion or fear tells us
otherwise, the world becomes a brighter place.
Cathy Adams is a certified parenting coach, yoga instructor and mother to three girls.
See more of Cathy's stories here.
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