The F Word
Thursday, June 17, 2010
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My daughter walks in and says, "I know what the F word is". OK, so here we are. She is going into 2nd grade, I knew this was inevitable, but it still feels soon. I ask her what it is and she is correct; she knows the F word.
I ask her where she heard it and she says that it's written on the slide at the park. I guess this is the only downside to being able to read.
I ask her if she has any questions about the F word and she says she wants to know why she can't say it. I explain to her that it's an adult word, but kids like to use it, usually because it makes them feel older.
I tell her that as she gets older she is going to hear this word and other adult words, but that doesn't mean that they are appropriate words to use. I tell her that there are plenty of words out there to express herself and she doesn't have to use words that can hurt or offend people.
I tell her that if she ever has a question about a word to feel free to talk to me about it. I tell her that as she gets older she will hear more things that might be confusing and part of my job is to make them not so confusing.
She nods and thinks for a few minutes. "I know the S word, too". OK, I say, tell me the S word. Quietly she whispers in my ear, "It's stupid". I breathe a sigh of relief. I know things are coming and I'm getting ready, but it's nice to know that she can be 7 a little while longer.
Cathy Adams is a certified parenting coach, yoga instructor and mother to three girls.
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way aheadBy Cathy on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 Vicki - we always tend to be way ahead of them with our thinking, don't we?? Sometimes I try to put down my 38 years of baggage and experience and really try to remember what its like to be 7.....helps me meet her where she is.... |
S wordBy Vicki Divane on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 Hi Cathy...Something similiar happened with our 8 year old after a day of school..she said someone said the "S" word on the bus...My husband and I looked at each other and he asked "Sh*t ?" She looked at him really confused and said No it was "Stupid "....We both breathed a sigh of relief and then realized he taught her a new "S" word....Ha...:) Oh, well.... |
??By G on Tuesday, November 13, 2012 whewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww, so glad she didnt hear it from me! good job explaining...u r goin to have lots of splainin to do, mommy |
The "F" bomb
By shayne on Tuesday, November 13, 2012
I'm so proud of Jacey that she came home and talked about it. When I was a kid, I heard it and repeated it right away. I knew the F word had power in it, so I tried it on. Someone eventually called me out on it. Either way, it's all more opportunity for growth. Learning to filter what comes out of my mouth has been a big challenge, but it's good for my brain to pause, think, speak. YAY Jacey!!!