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Cathy Cassani Adams
The Self-Aware Parent

 

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The following article was written by my friend Amy Hearst, a very green mama and one of my favorite people.  She recently told me that when she eats at restaurants she asks for the manager to make sure they are recycling; if they aren't, she takes the opportunity to tell them why they should.

She is a true character, a devoted mom and she's passionate about saving the environment.   She may embarrass her husband occasionally (we feel for you Matt!), but it's all in the name of making this world a better place……

So I'm at the grocery store tonight and I always bring my own reusable bags.  I'm checking out and the sacker person asks a seemingly innocent question without noticing I brought my own bags.

"Plastic okay?"

I snarl back, "No, plastic is NOT okay!"

Then I angrily toss my organic fruit into my own reusable bag.

My husband keeps telling me I need to be a little kinder when I'm trying to get my point across, but people, we don't have time to be kind!  Years of being kind have led to a suffering earth.

Years of, "You know what, I'll just double bag this for you - you have an extra heavy load here."

Years of, "I want to recycle but I get so tired of thinking about all of the sorting."

And years of, "Our area doesn't offer curbside for glass, but we really recycle everything else."

Use it once, throw it away.  Is that what I want my kids to grow up thinking?  That we are disposable, that the earth revolves around what we, as brief inhabitants of this place, desire and want?  I don't think so.

We moved from a Chicago condo to a house in suburban Kansas City.  While in Chicago the trash (and recyclables) that my family generated didn't really register to me.  We just sorted things and tossed much of it into a giant dumpster outside our bedroom window.

In KC, we faithfully put our limit of two trash bags out per week along with blue bins for recycling.  It was staggering to me when I walk in our neighborhood in the mornings to see all of the giant bags of trash lining the streets…and we are one small neighborhood in the midst of so many.

I also had a bit of an emotional epiphany one day at Target.  I walked the aisle of laundry detergents and started thinking about how many of those plastic bottles could be recycled…and probably weren't.  They could end up in a landfill, slowing leaking their BPA toxins in my children's drinking water someday.  My eyes filled with tears.

I can get myself so worked up sometimes thinking, What can I do? How can I help?

I have found some ways, and I hope that my passions have paid off somehow.

  • I carry a big stack of reusable bags in the back of my car.  For the first couple of weeks I would turn off my car and force myself to go around to the back and grab a bag - it became habit.  I do that for every kind of store I enter - grocery, clothing, Loew's, you name it.
  • Instead of using paper napkins and paper towels, I bought some washcloths at Target.  I use those all of the time for cleaning the counters, wiping the children's dirty faces, cleaning the floors.  We use cloth napkins instead of paper napkins.  Yes, they get stained, but who cares?  Much of the time it's just our family eating together.
  • Save your water!  Do you really need to rinse off your dishes before you fill up your dishwasher?  Try not rinsing and see if that works just as well.
  • Get a rain barrel.  They collect water that runs off your roof and you can use it to water your plants and garden with the pure rain.  You can buy them at Lowe's or Home Depot and your children can help you water your plants.
  • Use a bucket when you shower.  Collect some of that water and use it to water your indoor houseplants.  (Honestly, I haven't done this one yet, but I'm going to!)
  • Use diluted vinegar or hydrogen peroxide as general cleaners around the house.  You'll save money and not fill up your household air with toxins.  The stinky vinegar smell will go away after it dries.
  • Don't buy anymore new clothes!  Visit a thrift store and comb through other's castaways.  Producing new clothes uses so much energy and there are some fantastic children's clothes available for cheap.  Or trade hand me downs with friends.
  • Don't buy a new car.  Buy a used car - saves so much energy it takes to produce that new car.
  • Make or buy a compost container and use it.  We fill ours up with coffee grounds, eggshells, vegetable peelings and yard waste.  Then we use that mix (after it decomposes) to fertilize our garden and houseplants.
  • Plant a tree.  Your kids will love it.
  • Plant a garden.
  • When you eat out with the kids, try to save all of those plastic cups and bring them home. The restaurants don't wash and reuse them after you leave - they throw them away!  So bring them home with you and reuse them.
  • We also reuse all types of plastic cups - if we get an iced tea at McDonald's, I rinse the cup and use it again.  If you get a Starbucks coffee, don't throw the container away - use it again.  I think all of these little steps will help our world in the long run.
  • Try to have one day where you don't drive.

As an addendum, I just received this email from Amy…. Matthew and I went on a date Friday night to this great burgers and beer place we love (Blanc Burgers and Bottles) and the server said they recycle glass along with several other Plaza restaurants.  I was SOOOO excited……

Do want to tell Amy she's doing a good job, ask her advice or tell her to stop embarrassing her husband?  Email her at amyhearst@yahoo.com.

Do you have any green tips?  Feel free to share.

Cathy Adams is a certified parenting coach, yoga instructor and mother to three girls.

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Contact Cathy at cathycadams@sbcglobal.com

 
One More Thought....

By Kim-Marie on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Once you get going...you do just keep building! Instead of buying washcloths, we have started cutting up old t-shirts (the ones that are beyond lawn cutting/workout) and using them as face wipies and kid napkins. They last for years. Now, if I can just remember my bags when I do go to Target... thanks for the article Amy!

On your side and theirs

By xoxo on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

While being passionate about being green is extremely important for our family and environment, I think that a way to change a person's mind is to not be snippy or pushy, but to be infromative. Just because people don't adopt your passion, doesn't mean that they don't make an impact on the envt. in some other way. Maybe they have chosen to live in a house that doesn't take up so much energy which reduces their carbon footprint. Sometimes you have to step outside your little box and look into someone elses before you instantly judge them for your perception of their lack of green living. THink about having your kids drink out of glass at resturants because you and I both know that those kiddie cups won't last forever and therefore end up in the landfill anyway... from your house. Sometimes new cars are much more envt friendly than an older vehicle from standards alone. I think that people have come a long way and they are doing their part as much as they can... it's no one's right to judge them or make them feel inferior for not being "green enough". Don't forget to look in the mirror sometimes and put your passion to good work by being informative and kind, like Matt said.

Queen of Green

By Nancy Wikel on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Great article. You should write other articles because your passion for this subject really shows through in your writing. I love the tips and will try some of them. I'm sure at times the family is a little embarrassed but you are just trying to do your part! Good job!

response

By Amy Hearst on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Thank you, everyone, for the great comments and feedback! I love Randi's little tip about not putting fruits and vegetables at the grocery store into those clear plastic bags - a small step, but a very good one. Keep it up! Andrea - from what I've read, buying a used car is a better choice because you are using less resources - the new car takes more resources to produce. It seemed a bit strange to me, but that is what I've seen. Even if it was a Prius, better to purchase used than new. Same with clothes - if you can buy used clothes for your children, it will use less resources - that's why consignment shops and garage sales are really good for the environment - or even just swapping clothes with friends. Thank you, everyone!

Well Said

By Andrea on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

I love these tips -- many of which I'm already doing. I found that by starting small, it's easy to build on. I started with the recycled grocery bags and now I'm much more conscious of what I'm doing. Sometimes if I forget my bag, and there is just one or two items, I ask them to skip the bag and I either put them in my purse or carry out. However, about the buying a used car, I recently purchased a new car that gets much better gas mileage. Wouldn't that be the better choice?

recycling

By shayne on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

It wasn't until I moved to southern California that I heard of composting. Some people that I babysat for back in 2006 were using cloth diapers and using natural products for house cleaning too. Now I'm trying to do my part my separating glass and plastics from the trash in my garbage. And I've had the reusable bags for grocery shopping in my car and/or apartment for the last 2 years, at least! And I just started to remember to actually bring them into the store with me. This is progress though, because there was a point when I didn't remember the bags until I was getting back to my car with the grocery-filled paper bags. Then it was at the check out that I would realize I had forgotten the reusable bags. So, now that I remember them BEFORE i go into the grocery store, is HUGE progress. Thanks for all the great tips on what else is reusable. Every little bit helps in a big way!

Choosin

By Randi on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

You really are a character, Amy! And a green one at that! I really enjoyed your tips.....I really want to get a rain barrel. One itty bitty green thing I do is this: when I buy a cucumber, bananas or a bell pepper, I don't put them in the store's clear bags. I just put them in my cloth bag after I've paid for them. Those clear store bags are pretty much useless anyway. Keep up the green work, Amy! I'm with ya!

Amy's mom

By Suzanne on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

It's interesting to me that your generation has adopted many principles of recycling that my parent's generation practiced. Probably different motives..in their case it was to save money and now the motivation is to save our earth. It's all good!

Great green tips!

By Rachel on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Great ideas, Amy! Amy got me going on tip #2 almost a year ago.... "Instead of using paper napkins and paper towels, I bought some washcloths at Target. I use those all of the time for cleaning the counters, wiping the children's dirty faces, cleaning the floors. We use cloth napkins instead of paper napkins."... At the time we were using tons of paper products. It was such an easy change, too. Now I don't use paper products to clean the house anymore. I bought microfiber cleaning clothes -- they even had one for windows. Amy, thanks for making me think and be more green!

Please Stop Embarrassing Your Husband

By Billy T on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

We can certainly do a few things ourselves to reduce our personal imprints ( I think we do all on your list plus cloth diapering ). But the big bang will be if we can get manufacturers to reinvent their processes, and get Obama to focus on rebuilding our power grid, and truly investing in new power sources. I think you're anger is raising your body temperature and is adding to global warming. Keep cool sister! LOVE Billy

Yay Amy!!

By Sherri on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Nicely written, Amy! Great and easy tips for everyone to start doing right away...

Rodgers

By Anita on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Great work Amy. So few people are green minded. The compost container is great and serves so many purposes. Wonderful tips and ideas. Thanks

Every Little Bit Helps

By Christy Schliesman on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

These are great tips! Sometimes it can seem so overwhelming saving the world, but little things do add up to make a BIG difference. Thanks!

Passion

By Andrea on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Amy.... I think of you everytime I go to Target and I forget my bag. I have a huge sense of guilt come over me! You have not changed one bit over the years.... you have always been a passionate person! Thanks for being you!

Friend

By Nancy Sirinek Crane on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Great article Amy, you are a wonderful role model and person!!!!

Hopefully my little bit helps, too

By Diane Walker on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Though I'm FAR less enthusiastic about recycling and reusing than Amy, she offers some great and very diverse suggestions for helping to protect our environment. And like Amy, I also embarrass my husband with my enthusiastic recycling and occasional though less consistent use of reusable bags. Whether we "attack" the issue like Amy or step down several steps on the enthusiasm ladder like many of us, we are each making a difference in the world we leave behind for our children. That's a VERY good thing!

Fan of Amy

By Robert Carr on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Love your passion for the creation friend. I know of a church that is in discernment about the next decade of its life-----maybe one of the things we need to look at is the whole area of earth care. Lots to talk about there.

Director

By Lisette on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Amy - I didn't know you were so green minded - good for you! We also moved from a Chicago condo to the suburbs (but in Florida) recently - our building in Chicago didn't have a recycling program set up, so naturally we didn't do it. It has been amazing to realize how little actual garbage you can have if you recycle all the recyclable products that there are. Thanks for sharing!!

Domestic hause frau

By Kim Bruewer on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Some neat ideas here... need to check out the Snack Taxi's! And I love the garden idea, even a small container garden is fun for the kids.

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