The Great Circ DebateWednesday, May 12, 2010
Second City Baby
For some, whether or not to circumcise their baby boy is a matter of debate. Melissa from Babble thought the trauma her son went through to fix a botched circumcision outweighed the possible benefits.
For me, being Jewish and raising a Jewish family there is no question. By law, Jewish-born males are circumcised on the eighth day of life in a ceremony called a brit milah, or bris. With my first son, this was the standard operating procedure. When he was eight days old, the mohel and fifty of our closest friends gathered at our home for this celebration of life.
For me, the bris was one of the worst days of my life. I thought I was mutilating my precious newborn. That he'd somehow remember being strapped to the board and never forgive me. (The Jewish mother guilt is endless). I swore (literally) at my husband that if we had another boy I would NEVER DO A BRIS AGAIN. Not ever.
We did have that second son, but didn't have a choice about the bris. Born with a bit of a deficiency (I'll leave the details at that), he was not able to be circumcised at a bris. The circ would have to wait until he was six months old and could tolerate the procedure. While I was happy to not deal with another horror show at my house, I fretted about my baby's future procedure.
In that time, however, I came to love my un-circumcised baby. His parts were so different than those of his brother's, but they were uniquely his. But, I knew one day the foreskin had to go.
Today, we checked into Children's Memorial to give our son a proper Jewish penis. Let me tell you that the six-month circ put the bris to shame. The hospital surroundings, the gown, the anesthesia, and the IV made the mohel look like a Manna from heaven.
Luckilly, (and with excellent physicians I must say) he made it through just fine and we will now deal with his recovery. For some, the debate may rage on and on about the pros and cons of circumcising your baby. But for me, when push came to shove, and I had to delay the circ as I did, there was just no question.