No matter how many kids you have or how long you've
been a parent, a newborn makes you feel like a rookie all over
There are only two years between my youngest and this baby yet
as I stood in the baby aisle at Target my eyes glazed over and
anyone walking by would have assumed I was a first timer. What did
I need again? I sent out the plea in Facebook. It had been only two
years, why was everything different? Where were the familiar
bottles and binkes? The science of babies could not have advanced
At least the hospital experience is much more relaxed. It's
practically a vacation for me with nurses offering to change
diapers, bring me drinks and take care of baby so I can shower and
sleep. Once home that all disappears and I'm lucky to get to eat
while the meal is hot.
The one thing that will forever fill me with anxiety and make me
feel like a fumbling new parent is the first attempt to leave the
house. It feels like you arw either packing up the whole nursery of
fretting over what you probably forgot. None of your clothes fit
and you haven't quite gotten your system down for how you will
carry said pile of necessary and things. In a word you're awkward
For me it also fuels the anxiety that peaks during the early
postpartum period. I move slowly, I'm sure looking scared, as I try
to take it all in. Try to contemplate every scenario and what I
should be doing worried everyone is judging my parenting.
Thankfully I've learned that parenting is trial by fire and best
learned from doing. I've also learned that you're starting over
with every child, learning their temperament and place in the
family. You take what you've learned from your other kids and hope
it works again. So really we're all rookies, learning the game as
Melissa is mom to 4 kids and 2 angels. She chronicles the sticky bits of motherhood at Peanut Butter in my Hair.
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