When there is such a huge disparity like this, I would seek the help of a counselor. This is one of those situations where each spouse is just too close to the subject and it's too emotional of a decision to possibly think clearly and be able to see one another's point of view. There are some things we can work out step by step with our spouse, but this one I would want there to be an objective third person involved to help us reach a decision we both can live with.
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