Posted by Kim K.
Ever since I resigned from my full-time position at Chicago
Parent last summer, I have been searching for the next step. What
can I do with my life that makes sense and that I enjoy? I have had
a year of self exploration and soul searching to see what to do
next. One of the things that I got excited about was teaching
For more than a year I have been taking exercise classes
regularly (about three to four times a week). An email came in May
looking for teachers to audition. Could I be a teacher? Should I
even go for it? Even though I am not a perfect 10 (not a size 10
but a Bo Derek 10), should I put myself out there? It was a hard
decision to make, and I thought about it long and hard.
I got up the courage to audition. I had never done anything like
this before. It really challenged me in so many ways, and I loved
getting outside of my comfort level. Then they called me back for
It turns out that it wasn't the happy ending I had hoped for. I
didn't get the offer to train to be a teacher. While I never
expected it to really happen, I had really hoped that it would.
The day I got this news, I was with my kids trying to put on the
happy mom face, trying to fake that I wasn't upset. The kids were
fighting and yelling so I turned to them and said very calmly.
"Listen, this isn't my best day. I didn't get the job that I was
hoping for and I am upset about it." They are almost 8 and 5, so I
knew that they would understand what I was saying (in code that
meant stop fighting, I am not feeling patient and I am not in a
great mood). There was about 15 seconds of quiet. And, then the
Why didn't you get the job?
Are you very upset?
If you wanted it, then why didn't you get it?
I decided this could be a good learning lesson for my kids,
despite my day of disappointment and sadness. I simply told them
that sometimes in life we don't get what we want. Whether it's a
job. Or, a part in a play. Or, even the second grade yearbook team.
I explained that sometimes you might try out for a sport and you
might not make the team. Or, you might not get invited to a party
that you had hoped you'd be included in. I told them that through
life things like this happen and you need to be prepared for it
when it does. I explained that sometimes it works out. And,
sometimes it doesn't.
I know in their future, especially if they take after me, they
are going to feel like they are on top of the world some days and
at the bottom of the world other days. I would love to say that I
will protect them from the evils and letdowns of life, but
realistically we know that this isn't possible.
I think it's good for them to know that life's not always going
to be perfect. This way, they don't have an unrealistic expectation
of the world. It might sound negative, but I think that there's
something to be said about giving your children a glimpse of the
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