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Posted by Liz D.

Listening to the radio on the way home from work a few weeks ago, I couldn't believe it when I heard a Chicago alderwoman accuse teachers at Fenger High School in Chicago of being responsible for kids' behavior outside of school. Not just once, but three times she declared that it was the job of teachers to raise our children to eschew violence and steer clear of gangs.

The reporter for the radio station was just as stunned. He repeated interrupted the alderwoman to ask, "But isn't that the family's job?" Eventually, begrudgingly, she acknowledged that it should be the family's responsibility, but since so many families weren't doing it, the job fell to teachers.

I hope I'm not alone in finding this an incredible injustice towards teachers. When I send my kids to school, I expect them to learn geometry and history, reading and language arts. But year after year, as parents relinquish their responsibility to raise their children to become good citizens of the world, schools have had to step up to the plate. Sex education? Add it to the curriculum. Mean girls taking over the school? Time for character education. But now we're placing the blame on schools for kids who are outside the classroom, in the community, fighting and killing each other?

Where's the public outrage that we, as parents, families and communities have dropped the ball in raising our kids? Is it just easier to throw it back on the schools -- one more thing we can add to their workload because so many parents have failed?

I'm not saying it isn't hard. As a single, working parent of three teens and tweens, I get the challenges we face in counteracting the crazy messages the world dishes out to our kids on a daily basis. There are probably plenty of times I don't get it right, but I keep trying. Because until my children set foot inside a classroom how they behave is my responsibility-not their teacher's. And I wouldn't have it any other way.

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Enough is Enough!

By Angela Iverson on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

When do we say that enough is enough and stand up to accept our own responsibilities as parents? It is an outrage that anyone would believe that it is the teachers’ duty to raise our children. It is our jobs as parents to stand up for our youth and RAISE them ourselves! As parents, we do not relinquish our responsibilities to teachers and school administrators after our child leaves us each morning, but instead we should instill moral and values in them while teachers only reinforce what we are (or should be) teaching at home. It is definitely a reality that all parents do not “parent” the same, and may lack teaching moral and character values to their children and this is when we should ask ourselves individually “what else can be done in my community? “ What else can be done to ensure the safety of our children at school? Wouldn’t it have been more beneficial for this Alderman to offer parenting classes or parent meetings in that local area for those parents who lack parenting skills or even direct students who lack family structure to the nearest youth center. Many youth centers offer after school activities that provide the structure, discipline and support that a child may lack at home. Now is the time that we say enough is enough. There are children losing their lives daily right in front of us, as we watch like spectators. It is imperative that we as parents become involved in what are children are doing. Although teachers do play a huge role in a child’s life, ultimately we are the ones responsible for providing sound guidance for our children.

Agreed

By Lauren on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

I find this to be extremely disturbing. It does not surprise me that there are parents who have failed to raise their children to be well-behaved, law-abiding, contributing citizens. And I do agree with Walter that the teachers can and do have an influence on the children. However, to charge teachers with raising our children is abserd! As parents, it is our responsibility to raise our children to be good people. But that begs the question: When the parents are not good people, do the children even stand a chance?

Absolutely!

By Nancy S. on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

I'm with you! Parents have to be the ones to act as role models for their kids and to set expectations! Teachers should play supporting roles to this end. I have never understood the mentality that everyone else is to blame.

Teaching Behaviors

By Walter on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

I have always felt that the best teachers find ways to encourage their students to want to learn more about the subject they are teaching. Beyond teaching the subject, the best teachers also can teach life skills by example and by saying encouraging words at the right moments. Teachers can certainly have a positive influence on our teens and talk to their students about how staying clear of gangs and violence benefits them in the long run. My guess is that many teachers already do.

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