My internal clock has been ticking lately, and the noise has
gotten so loud that it's just about all I can hear. No, it has
nothing to do baby making.The thrumming I hear as I run around
every day is the feeling that my life-filled with tons of joyful
responsibilities that include my two kids, a great hubby, and a
business-is somehow running me instead of me running it.
Fortunately, I attended Oprah's Lifeclass a few weeks ago, and I
can't wait to share what I learned.
I wonder if it has to do with fall, but it just seems like the
days are getting shorter and shorter while my to-do list grows and
grows. I know, I know: Woe is me, right? What parent out there
isn't asking me through his or her computer or smartphone screen
right now, "Well, isn't this what you chose for yourself?"
Yes, indeed it is, but even we moms who love our kids and the
lives we've created for ourselves still feel overwhelmed at times.
I have a full life overflowing with goodness. Along with the
laundry, cleaning, cooking, carpooling, and chaos come joy,
harmony, and gratitude. And now, thanks to Oprah's Lifeclass, I am
learning how to embrace and appreciate all of it.
I arrived for Oprah's Lifeclass a few weeks ago not really
knowing what to expect, which perhaps made the experience all the
more amazing. I actually met Oprah with a few other attendees,
including my biz partner, Wendy. (Oprah patted Wendy on the head,
and I thought she was going to burst with happiness.) We joined
about 30 or so people in a small studio and, after watching Oprah's
Lifeclass with them (Lifeclass is at 7 p.m. on OWN, and Oprah does
a Friday after-show at 8 p.m. that's shown online and on OWN),
Oprah came out with special guest Iyanla Vanzant.
From that point on, we were in for a wild ride. Iyanla does not
mince words, and you can see that Oprah's mind was on fire as the
two of them guided us through some important life lessons. I'll
repeat what others have said because it feels so true-throughout
the class, I felt like they were speaking directly to me. As
thousands of people tweeted, Facebooked, and skyped-in with their
stories, I could put my own hamster-wheel life under the microscope
to see what I could do better. Here were a few lessons from both
Iyanla and Oprah that truly hit home.
"Love people enough to tell them the truth and respect them
enough that they can handle it."
"You are the only one who gets to say what's going on in your
"Your presence is enough".
"Do what you love and the payment will unfold. Don't attach a
paycheck to your purpose!"
My true "aha" moment, when the clock stopped ticking and all I
could see was my wonderful life with all of its perfect
imperfection, brought this realization: Allow yourself
to feel the joy of just breathing. Take a deep breath and
enjoy! Thanks, Oprah, for helping me tune out the daily
noise and focus on what's important in my life. The clock may
start ticking again, but now I know that I can run my life without
it running me.
~By Jamie Fishman
Wendy Widom is CEO of Familes in the Loop (FITL), Chicago's hippest hub for parents and kids.
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