I get the best parenting tips from my
I wish my kids came with an instruction manual (not
that I would read it, cuz' I'm a guy. I would just ask my wife to
read it and then ask her questions).
Anyway, when they "popped out," there were no instructions.
There are a lot of great books and blogs (click here) that share
advice on parenting and how to deal with certain situations, but as
far as my individual kids go, it's a crapshoot.
Other parents are good for advice, as well as neighbors.
But once my kids were old enough to talk, I started asking them for
advice. Who knows better how to deal with them, than
Every once in a while, I will ask them individually, "How
am I doing as a DAD? Is there anything I can do better or
Granted, at first the answers were very simple: "I love
you daddy, you are the best!" Which is usually followed by "You
need to let me stay up later and eat ice cream for
No matter what they say, I don't judge or fight. I listen
and make them feel like their opinion is something that matters and
will be taken into consideration.
"Okay buddy, on Saturday you can have ice cream for
breakfast." One and done.
As they have gotten older and we have established trust in
our little check-ins, their answers have become more sincere and
"Dad, I really don't like it when you try and pick me up
in public, I am 14."
"Dad, when you wash my hair you do it too
"Dad you yell too much at middle kid when we are eating,
give him a break."
"Dad, you walk way too close to cars when we are outside
and it makes me nervous."
Though I don't always like what they are saying, I
appreciate the fact that they are comfortable enough to say it to
me instead of holding it in. As they grow and the types of
conversations we must have begin to get more difficult, I know that
having an open, honest line of communication can only make things
David Wallach thinks SAHD sounds sad. He’s a D.A.D. A Dad All Day!
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